Why You Shouldn't Date Everyone You Meet

There is approximately  7 million people in the world today. Many of which who will possess many qualities we share and find attractive. It is nearly inevitable that we will meet many people who interest us. However, we can't date or marry everyone who we find attractive, unless we are Solomon (he had 700 wives lol). My point is that even though we may come across many people we like or find attractive, it doesn't necessarily mean they are the right person to pursue a relationship with.

Many followers of Christ who are considering dating have heard the scripture "do not be unequally yolked" (2 Corinthians 6:14). It is a fairly popular verse and is referenced many times in regards to dating. Although it is referenced and preached a lot, sometimes many Christians overlook it. Why? Because of this dangerous thing called, feelings. Feelings can allow us to make many temporary decisions that can result in many long term consequences. That is why it is vitally imperative that we pray for wisdom and discernment and actively take heed from the Holy Spirit. He will guide us to help us distinguish our feelings from His promptings.

Through my past experiences, I have seen firsthand how my feelings have allowed me to make premature decisions in regards to pursuing a relationship with someone. A very vivid example stems from a young lady pretending to want to know more about God, only as a means to get close to me. It only resulted in disappointment as I realized that we were definitely going in different directions. From my past experiences it is my prayer and hope that I encourage someone with this post.

Believe it or not, godly characteristics in a person are attractive to individuals who aren't even looking for God. As the saying goes, "Some people want a godly man/woman, but don't want God."

The problem is that those who have this mindset never draw near to God, but only end up drawing near to you. You unfortunately become their substitute for God. As a result this adds pressure on you because as soon as you make a mistake, they associate your mistakes as a characteristic and quality of God. So you then feel as if your every move and action has to "perfect" in order for them to "see" God. This is unfair to you and to the other person involved; it is unhealthy. We can't base our knowledge of God, based of the errors of other people. In essence people may always fail us, but God will never fail us. It hurts my heart that so many people are so opposed to the things of God, because a Christian made a mistake and hurt them (mistakes are inevitable). This may occur possibly, because the person never had a true, personal relationship with God. As a result, they are not able to identify God's perfect presence from human's needing grace for their errors. This brings me to my next point.

Some individuals may be placed in your life for you to witness to them, not necessarily date them. A young lady may need to see an example of a trustworthy man, a young man may need to know how true acceptance feels from a woman. This is possible to display without dating them. Ultimately if people are broken and "dead" in their spiritual life they need to see the true reason behind your caring qualities. Essentially it means they need to see Christ!