Christian Dating Blogs

Christian dating seems to get more and more popular. It seems as if so many young believers are seeking and wondering how they can attract that godly man or woman. Popular Christian dating blogs have also been on the rise allowing many individuals to finally seek and ask the questions they have been desperately wanting to know. Although I believe these blogs have the best intentions in mind, I am beginning to worry that people are heavily relying on these blogs rather than....God.

I think Colossians 2:20-23 sums it up beautifully,

20 Since you died with Christ to the elemental spiritual forces of this world, why, as though you still belonged to the world, do you submit to its rules: 21 “Do not handle! Do not taste! Do not touch!”?22 These rules, which have to do with things that are all destined to perish with use, are based on merely human commands and teachings. 23 Such regulations indeed have an appearance of wisdom, with their self-imposed worship, their false humility and their harsh treatment of the body, but they lack any value in restraining sensual indulgence.

Paul is basically warning us that making rules and forcing ourselves to stay away from certain practices would never formulate the maturity necessary to be successful in our spiritual lives. Which brings me to my next point.

Christian Dating blogs seem to be popular lately, but be careful. Just because certain aspects worked for one couple doesn't mean it is your personal conviction as well. Let God be the standard not someone's relationship. Don't be so focused on your relationship looking like a good "image" that you start implementing things when God has not even directed or convicted you on those things! 

Boundaries are extremely important in a relationship, especially physical limits, but I know many young couples who are refusing to hug, hold hands, kiss, etc. until they are married, because of something they read on a blog. But what happens when/if they do hold hands, or hug, or kiss? Does that mean they are not strong enough? Does that mean they are not "good" Christians? Or could it simply mean that God didn't convict them about making their decision? 

Please don't get it twisted, I'm not "condemning" Christian dating blogs. I am just stating some things I have noticed with some of my fellow brothers and sisters.

A good friend of mine once said that, "we have to remember that we are seeking love from falling people in a fallen world." I couldn't agree anymore. So instead of continuously focusing on a list of do's and don'ts are we able to truly accept the other person for who they are, flaws and all.

The purpose of this post is NOT to attack these blogs, I think many of them truly put Christ at the forefront of relationships. I am just simply encouraging young believers to not get so consumed with these blogs that we ultimately forget God. Learning to grow in love, developing self-control, asking for wisdom, being led by the Holy Spirit is essentially what we should be striving for.